John Gray* and others philosophers and spiritual leaders reflections the stages of human development, enabling us to clearly see each age period features. This leads us to rethink our mission and tasks of a given age period. If the period increased the fore of the period features, it is appropriate. If any of the development stages of a person jumps, then later on it will return to harmonize future life. If any of the stages, except for a relationship with God, are placed too high expectations, the result both they and all other relations become disharmonious.
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| A g e |
Most important values of life | Basic communication medium | Our main field actions and behavior | It is important to develop | If we get stuck in this age group… |
| 0 - 7 |
Receive love. | Parent family. | All required – love, security, support is generally received from the parents. | The ability to receive love. | Wants to receive everything from others. On extreme levels we aggressively try collect from others, even by breaking laws of morality criminal activities. |
| 7 - 14 |
Everything in the game. The major key is to process. | Yard around the home, playing partners. | Games. Highly important process and the outcome are irrelevant. | Ability to enjoy the process. | It is difficult to set and achieve goals, because process more important than the aim, goal, mission, achievement etc |
| 14 - 21 |
Common interests and values. | People equals in age with similar goals and beliefs. | People equals in age, interest and fan clubs. | Ability to find and maintain relationships with like-minded people with similar values in life. Ability to be in one body and spirit with group. | Because it is hard to communicate with people with have a different opinion, we slowly step by step begins “to rot in our pond” constantly communicating only with the small and same group of people. The scarcity of new contacts. |
| 21 - 28 |
Freedom, independence. | Beyond anything away from everything. | Nowhere and everywhere simultaneously. | Self-sufficiency. Ability to live without the praise, awards, recognition from the outside. If we do not have sense of Self-sufficiency, it is not possible to give in charity without material gain in reword: fame, recognition etc | Difficult to build a lasting relationship. All the time we trying to be independent, show malevolence, elegance, proudness, overconfident, sapience etc. |
| 28 - 35 |
Deep, intimate relationships in wider terms | Own family or/and spiritual group. | Love’s Exchange, building lasting relationships. | Ability to care and take responsibility for individuals and family members. | Mostly we stay in family and try our best to get, drag all life benefits from the partner, which may generally be obtained from friends, colleagues, parents, spiritual groups etc. |
| 42 - 49 |
Devotional services to the public. | Village, city, region, country. | Go out of the house, family, and relatives. Social serves to the nearest public. | The sense of belonging to the place, land etc. Balance between taking, receiving and giving, sharing. | We are not able to look across our closest boundaries. Our land, place we considered to be the world’s navel. |
| 49 - 56 |
Devotional services to the world in general. | World in general. | Go beyond the immediate community and serve the world in general. | Healthy sense of citizenship, nationhood, nationalism matter etc. | We are unable to look beyond national borders and in our activities, to take into account the interests of the entire world, entire world. |
| 56 - … |
Devotional Services to Absolute True, Supreme Personality of Godhead. | The most extensive, as far as possible, even beyond all creation. | Go beyond the world, creation and serving every living entities and all creation. | Pure Devotional Services to Absolute True, Supreme Personality of Godhead and every living entities in all creation. | If we truly serve Absolute True, Supreme Personality of Godhead, any living entities, then it is the only activity in which we does not get stuck. |
| A g e |
More visible giving-taking features | In our language frequently used words, form, schemes | Dependence – independence – interdependence – complete Dependence |
| 0 - 7 |
Taking and receiving phase | I, Me, My. I AM good, excellent, right… . I AM bed, poor, wrong… . I need, must, should… . | Dependence. The dependence of parent and external conditions. |
| 7 - 21 |
Exchange phase | You. You need, must, should to do … . Your duty is … . If You … then I … . When I … then You … | Dependence – interdependence. Depending on external factors. |
| 21 - 28 |
Self-sufficiency phase | We. OK, great, okay, all right, life is nice. | Independence.Total independence from external circumstances, full self-sufficiency. |
| 28 - 49 |
Giving, shearing phase | The balance between the I-You-We. How can I help You? What do You want, need, looking for, call for? What do You like? What do You require? Who can we please You? | Interdependence. Interdependence of each other. |
| 49 - … |
The balance between giving, shearing and taking, receiving | God and different God’s names. Speak about Absolute True, God, God pastimes, Divine laws, nature laws, proposes of life, creation processes, regularities, tendencies etc. In Large-Scale from the language disappear the expressions and means like: “I, Me, Mine”. | Complete Dependence of Supreme Absolute True, Supreme Personality of Godhead |
Material prepared by BVG Janaka das
7 Jun 2011 – http://bhls.wordpress.com
* John Gray (born 1951) is an American relationship counselor, lecturer and author. He has written seventeen books on relationships and personal growth, including his 1992 book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, which is being turned into a motion picture. Gray’s most current book is Venus on Fire | Mars on Ice, an exploration of relationships and the role of food and nutrition to sustaining a healthy romantic partnership. John Gray home page: www.askmarsvenus.com
